Friday, 5 July 2013

Sex Mistakes Woman Make that Gives Upper Hand to Man over Woman in Relationship






What kind of sexual life or relationship you enjoy with your man is completely in your hand and you should not take lifetime to realize that. There are some basic mistakes which woman make due to cultural and psychological inhibitions but let me share with you; these mistakes of woman put man on the superiority column and create disequilibrium. Have you ever thought why man feels that they are superior to woman; the answer lies in the handling of sexual arrangement by woman. We sourced out from WebMD what kind of Sex mistakes we (Woman) make. You ensure that you don’t make these mistakes and equally made up to face him when it comes to sex.
1.    Not Initiating Sex with Your Partner
We have a fear of being labelled as aggressive or fear of losing the image in terms of what he will think of me and that’s why we don’t want to appear pushy or come on too strong for sexual need.  According to Les Parrot, professor of psychology at Seattle Pacific University “failing to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make”
“Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship,” he says.  Generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do. Just get out of the world of last century where woman used to stay in parda. The time has graduated to Live-in relationship and your need or initiatives are equally important.
Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time.  Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience.
2.    Worrying About What You Look Like
Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm. Sex is something to enjoy and it requires no brain. Even there are scientific facts which prove that brain stops functioning for a very small moment during sex and that moment is orgasm.“Don’t think about the fat on your belly or the makeup on your face, rather concentrate on the pleasure of act,” advises Dr. Ruth, a psychosexual therapist.  After all, You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm.
Men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and that’s not likely if she is anxious about her physical concerns which finally results in dissatisfaction for both and sex after pregnancy.
Experts say that man is blind to many physical flaws of woman and they look for woman who shows signs of health and youth and fertility.  Rather than worry about the shape of your waist and hips, worry about your energy level and enthusiasm and interest in him.
3.      Assuming Sex Is Casual for a Man
Let us get out of old-fashioned notions, such as women are not sexual or that sex is just sex to men. 
The study amongst the students engaging in one-night stands found that men are just as serious about sex and relationships as women.  In fact, more than 50% of women and 52% of men who went into a one-night stand reported that they did so hoping to create a longer relationship.  One-third of them actually did so.  What’s the lesson? 
“Never assume that a man is not romantic,” Expert says. “Two huge mistakes in this culture are that women are not sexual and that men are not as romantic as women.”

4.      Believing He’s Always Up for Sex
Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time you ask, but not true for men.  The pressures of everyday life -- family, work, bills -- can zap a man’s libido.  This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often his lack of interest in sex is something we take personally.
When woman is not interested in sex and says ‘No’ it is not applied to love. The Love is still there. But When Man is not in mood and say ‘No’, women take it as shock and thinks that he does not love me more. Its not true dear. Believe in the fact that he is not in mood but he still loves you. He just doesn’t want to have sex.”
5.      Not Giving Him Guidance
Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to. But expert says it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship. So be vocal and discuss about sex with him. A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter. You should believe that “No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience”.  Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.”
So, its good to tell him the ways you like.

What makes you beautiful for him?




How he is going to like me or my dress today?
Is my lipstick seductive enough to draw his attention? 
Is my dress revealing enough to have all his eyes on me? 

And bla..bla.. 
 
This is the everyday struggle of a girl so that she makes him to roam after her. The above struggling points from a daily routine of a girl may sound ‘Overstated’ for man but this denotes all together a mindset and ownership of the girl about “ RELATIONSHIP”. Isn’t she very serious about maintaining or earning a great relationship with him and sex after pregnancy . Yes She is. But how man takes it can be derived from the famous quote “ In Love, Women are professionals and men are amateurs”. So she does it professionally.

But what makes woman literally attractive or beautiful may not be her lipstick, hair color or dress! Its her attitude and confidence which sets her apart from the class. I have personally observed how man falls prey to the attitude of a girl. The infatuation to her outer make up generally does not stand long in lot many relationships but her attitude and the way she carries herself makes the entire story worth telling. So here are the best 5 tips you may like to follow so that he sticks around you always:

Don’t try to impress him: The most desired girl in the group never try to impress him. Believe me, “Not trying to impress him” attitude works with all man. But yes, Don’t be arrogant. Follow the thin line of difference.

Be a Challenge to him: Man loves challenges and let you be the biggest challenge of his life. If you present yourself easily then the relationship shall take a road of lesser distance which ends with sexual relationship. The achievement of having you is something which should drive him crazy and give him sleepless nights.  “The relationship earned with pain and difficulties stands longer” this is what he believes in subconsciously.  It does not mean that you make him to suffer with some painful conditions, point is that; don’t offer yourself so easily that he does not value it.

Social & Emotional Intelligence:  Man loves intelligent girl. But you need not to be a pythagoras to showcase intelligence. Your emotional and social intelligence is quite good enough to bring him on his knees.  How the society is evolving, knowledge of female contraception , how to earn & secure relationships, how emotions are stored and invested in are some of the points which he is searching answers for long time. Believe me, most of the men are insecure about their relationships and they always look for a person who is master of the art of securing relationship both socially and emotionally. Point is that you shoud not behave as dumb person. What so ever beautiful you are, Men don’t like dumb girls. Men perceive dumb girls as a sex object only.

Regards to attention: You check him out if he is seeing you and give regard to his attention which is a great booster for him. You should not make him completely ignored or make him embarrassed therefore a timely and frequent look and attention does well for him. A compliment for his choices (dress, color) shall showcases your liking and taste too, therefore don’t be stingy in praising him for his taste, selection and choices.



Don't Talk Sex: Well, I am not denying that sex is an important part of relationship and so it is for you as well. But, why you initiate the topic of sex. Let me tell you, he is thinking about sex from the moment he met you.  So let this feeling be nurtured carefully to make that happen in more great way. Let him initiate the conversation of sex and let you not try to be so conservative about this. Be confident and graceful to accept the discussion on the topic but it does not mean that you go gaga about sex before him.